by John Gary
As you likely know, statistics say that about 50% of marriages in the United States end up in divorce. And sadly, a number of those divorces end up being a lot messier and more frustrating than necessary because of various things that people do. Tucson divorce lawyers have a lot of recommendations as to what you can do in order to avoid a messy divorce – let’s take a look at a few of the most common recommendations.
- Make sure that you are as open with communication as you can possibly be. Communication is important, even if a relationship is ending. It will ensure that you both understand what is going on and it makes sure that you’re honest with each other throughout the whole process. That will take a huge load of stress off of you.
- Use mediation – it’s there for a reason, and you should use it to make things easier. Lawyers who specialize in divorce are going to be trained in mediation as well. Why? Because there is often a lot of tension that goes on during divorce, and you may need a little bit of help to be able to sort through everything effectively. Use their mediation services to their fullest benefit to make it easier on both of you.
- Never, ever throw your children into the middle of everything that is going on. Your children are not bargaining chips and you should never complain to your children about how bad the other parent is. This can cause them a lot of extra stress and, on top of that, it could blow up in your face and hurt your relationship with them as time goes on. Your children can be informed about what is going on (and you can get into as many or as few details as you want depending on their age), but don’t badmouth each other to your children or it will make it harder on them.
- Be kind to one another, even if you’re frustrated and/or angry during the divorce proceedings. Kindness can go an incredibly long way, so if you’re kind to each other while you’re dealing with the divorce, you can at least make it less awkward and less stressful while the proceedings are going on. If you don’t feel kind, try to fake it until you can make it.
- Be ready to compromise. Yes, it can be hard, and it may be part of what the problem was in the first place, but it’s important for you to find ways to meet in the middle and be willing to compromise where necessary. Don’t be a doormat, but be willing to give a little.
There are so many things that you can do to make your divorce go just a little bit better, so you should make an effort to at least try to do so. Your lawyer can help you out with these things as well, if you find that you need help.
